Long Live our Men!

ImageOnce again, the young and the old women are thronging the markets to get a mehandi on their hands and feet, to buy stuff like bangles, bindi, pots, traditional clothes, matching accessories and sweets etc. This marks the arrival of the festival of Karvachauth. Every year, women across India, especially in the North celebrate this festival with great pomp and show because it is day dedicated to their husbands. For those who do not know, Karvachauth is an occasion when women fast for the longevity of life of their husband. Most women who fast do not drink even a drop of water during the day till the time they see the moon and pray for their husband’s long life. On this festival women dress up traditionally, revere their husband, touch his feet and drink water through his hands.

The festival is sacred in India because of an old myth associated with it. It is believed that once in some state of India a newlywed queen observed this fast for her young bridegroom. But mistakenly she attempted to eat something before offering her prayers to the moon; as soon as she put the piece of bread in her mouth, she got the news of her husband’s demise. The queen got distressed and did not understand the reason behind his sudden death. An elderly lady then told her that this is the repercussion of her mistake of having food without worshipping the Moon God; the Goddess Karvachauth got annoyed at her action and so punished her by taking away the young king’s life. So on this day women solemnly observe a fast and attempt to please the Goddess Karvachauth seeking long life for their husband. Women gather in groups and recite such stories to each other to foster their faith in the purpose of this festival. They also perform other ceremonies that involve worshipping the Sun and other stars.

In our country since childhood girls are taught to sincerely observe this fast when they grow up and get married because not doing it can afflict them with the greatest of all evils i.e. the death of their husband. Often, the girls who are engaged or desire to get married also keep this fast with the hope of getting a suitable match for themselves.

Perhaps, it cannot be denied that religion provides solace in the hours of distress but at the same time having a blind faith in customs and pursuing them only because they are acceptable to the society, seems sheer stupidity! It is weird that women in our country believe that birth and death can be manipulated through practices such as fasting! Even the women who are independent and well-educated observe this fast in a religious manner because of the myth associated with it. They do not attempt to rationalize a bit about it and happily surrender to the tradition. No one pays heed to the scientifically proven fact that women have a tendency to live longer than men because they have a stronger immune system due to the benefit of having two X chromosomes (seehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/02/why-women-live-longer-than-men_n_3696114.html for more details). Also, recent studies have revealed that in India women who are 60 and above are more likely to die as widows than the men of that age group. This is because widowed men usually get to remarry but this is not the case with women. In many parts of our country, till date remarriage is taboo for widowed women (See http://econdse.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/JD-Recent-Research-on-Widows-in-India.pdf)

Indian women need to realize that they are an “individual” and by virtue of that they too have an identity of their own; husband is a companion and not a governor or a ruler through whom a woman would be known and in whose absence, her life is meaningless! It is ironical that on the one hand we Indian women fight and yearn for equality with men; on the other hand, through such traditional practices we place men at the level of divine and become servile to them. We show them that however they may treat us, we (apparently are the idols of forgiveness and dutifulness) would always pray for their long life. This does not only reflect our mindlessness but also displays our meanness because Indian wives oblige their husbands by observing this fast (apparently for them) but if one ponders over the whole concept, it is palpable that wives do it for their own sake since they feel secure and comfortable with their husband around.

However, need of the hour is to understand that all of us are mortal beings and there is nothing that can control or predetermine our death. Acting in such ignorant ways is extremely regressive for our society because this way we are leaving a legacy of lifelong dependence for our girl child and thus pruning her freedom and dreams.


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